The Caucasus Barometer 2008 survey asked people about the number of close friends they have. Close friends were specified to mean “people who are not your relatives, but who you feel at ease with, can talk to about what is on your mind, or call on for help.” In Azerbaijan, 27% of respondents said that they had no close friends. When the results are disaggregated by gender, show a clear divide: women have far fewer close friends. Thirty-seven percent of women reported having no close friends compared to only 17% of men.
When we isolated the data by looking at the Azerbaijani women who said they had zero friends. Focusing on the settlement type, about a third of the female respondents asked in the capital and in other urban areas replied that they no friends compared with about half of rural women respondents.
Why are so many Azerbaijani women, particularly older rural women, lacking close friendships? Perhaps the isolation of rural life combined with fewer possibilities to do communal activities are leaving women with no one to call a friend. Are they less likely to be involved in public life and activities outside the home? What could contribute to a more socially active and connected female population? Bring your ideas about this issue by responding and sharing your opinion, experience or research.
The answer seems to lie in the way a "close friend" was defined. It required high levels of trust and frequent interaction and yet it included a phrase “people who are not your relatives." There is a high chance that older women in rural areas communicate primarily with their relatives from extended families. The same logic may also apply to the female relationships in the capital: married women are expected to abandon most of their pre-marriage friendships to attend to their families and care for their children, an obligation they carry for the rest of their lives. In any case, by the time their children turn into adults, those women have no more friends left other than their immediate and extended families.
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